Going through a divorce is mentally and emotionally taxing even without the added pressure of trying to navigate a child custody plan. Not only are you preparing to enter a new chapter of your life as a single person living on one income, but if children are involved, you’re also having to formulate a new plan regarding your parenting. Parents who are enduring a divorce in Louisiana should try to work together on a parenting plan to ensure that their children are well taken care of during a time that is hard for everyone involved. Knowing what questions to ask yourself when creating the plan will help ensure that everything goes as smoothly as possible.
How will your child feel?
Even if they don’t “act out,” your child is going to have an emotional reaction to your divorce. In addition to the emotional and mental strain that the divorce will put on your child, it’s important to consider how they will feel about bouncing back and forth between two houses. Figure out what they’re going to miss out on and try to find a way to minimize the impact on your child.
How will this work logistically?
When you were married, you and your spouse probably had a system in place for dealing with extra-curricular activities and who would pick your child up from school every day. Even though your marriage didn’t work out, your child still needs both parents to be involved in their life. Try to work together to ensure the logistics of daily life still work out with minimal interruptions to your child’s routine. If this means that you pick up your child simply to take them to the other parent, just consider it as extra time with your child.
Am I using the schedule as revenge?
If the answer to this question is “yes” or “maybe,” you need to take a step back and revaluate why you’re making the suggestions. You and your ex are adults who have decided to end your marriage. The parenting schedule you’re creating is about your child and their needs, not about punishing your ex.
A family law judge will review your proposed child custody schedule and if it meets all of your child’s needs will probably allow you to use it. You can work with your attorney to ensure that your wishes regarding the schedule are considered.